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One year ago tomorrow…

Tomorrow marks one year since Steve died, since the Unspeakable happened. I have been dreading this day. Would I relive the horror of last year moment by moment, cry and grieve the senselessness of it all? No. There has been so, so much of it already. Instead, I decided to spend the day quietly, in private ritual, to feel Steve, and to be grateful for having spent many joyous and fruitful years in marriage with this beautiful man.

Wherever you are, please join me tomorrow, October 5th, at 6:00pm PST for a small ritual: rub your hands together until they are really warm. Then point the palms up towards the sky, sending your love and energy to Steve, through the center of your hands, the extension of your heart chakra.

By the magic of the divine mystery, he will feel it!

To honor Steve, to bring together our community, and to place another milestone on this difficult, intense journey, I am finally ready (as ready as I’ll ever be…) to hold a memorial gathering: A Tribute for Steve will take place at Fairfax Community Church, Fairfax, CA on Saturday, December 10th at 4:30-6:00pm.

Please understand that in order to attend, you must preregister, as space is limited. To find out more and to register, please follow this link.

33 replies
  1. michelle simonson
    michelle simonson says:

    I will visit the spot at some point tomorrow and will do that ritual in Steve’s honor wherever I am at 6:00. I will also be sending blessings to you and Coco tons of love.

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  2. Lourdes
    Lourdes says:

    I will join the blessing for Steve tomorrow at 6. I am so sad that I will not be able to join the community to celebrate Steve’s life! I’ll be in Orlando visiting my mom. Sending love to you Lokita.

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  3. Le'ema
    Le'ema says:

    Dear Lokita,

    My husband Eric and I will be there to mourn and celebrate this great human being with you! And tomorrow I shall be with you in prayer and remembrance. Lifting my hands high in to the sky in sacred salute.
    Much Love
    Le’ema

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  4. Maile
    Maile says:

    Yes, Lokita… I will be there. So grateful for the love you two lived and shared.
    Thank you for this opening for connection in celebration and in grieving.
    Much love to you sister.
    Maile

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  5. Samvada
    Samvada says:

    Tomorrow at 6pm I will join you and your community to honor Steve and send a love blast to him. I have no doubt that it will reach him.
    hugs and love to you and Coco!

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  6. Katalina Fisher
    Katalina Fisher says:

    I will be with you and everyone else in prayer at 6pm tomorrow. Bless you Lokita. Blessings to Steve. I love you both <3 <3

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  7. concetta germain
    concetta germain says:

    hi lokita..I am so sorry to hear about Steve’s passing..I saw several postings by you but I did not know that he actually passed..I just thought someone was ill…Ill not forget my last event that I attended with you and him as instructors almos7 o7 8 years ago at Harbin..thank you for all you did..would love to attend the Dec celebration of his life..tku

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  8. grace ellen
    grace ellen says:

    We will be flying down from Seattle. Lokita, thank you for providing this opportunity for us to celebrate Steve.

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  9. Wahila Wilkie
    Wahila Wilkie says:

    Sending you so much love and praying for you to have peace, be free from suffering and have happiness. I love you Lolita.

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  10. Summer Lopez
    Summer Lopez says:

    Lokita, I am sending you, Coco and Steve even more love today, and will be in ritual with you, and I suspect, many others at 6pm tonight. Love Love Love

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  11. Mika
    Mika says:

    Hello Lokita-
    Sending you big love on this day. Thanks for inviting us to think of Steve and send love collectively.
    I’m with you, Mika

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  12. Judi Finney
    Judi Finney says:

    I am with you today Lokita as you anticipate this evening and I will be with you and this loving community this evening at 6pm. My heart is full of love for you, Steve and Coco.

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  13. Avinasho
    Avinasho says:

    Sending lots of love to you and Steve, Lokita! You are in my heart and prayers.
    Did you get my email about my visit to Germany? Would love to connect with you
    while I am there. xoxoxo

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  14. Jenny Shannon
    Jenny Shannon says:

    We have already been remember this dear beautiful man today and will be joining all of you soon for this ritual. Thank you Lokita for reaching out to us and including us on this. It means a lot to me.

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  15. Bill van den Berg
    Bill van den Berg says:

    Helen and I just did it, aware that we might not be together if it were not for Steve and you.
    Love, Bill vdB

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  16. Adrienne Asher
    Adrienne Asher says:

    John and I both sent Steve our love and energy at 6 pm PST today. Beautiful memories mingled with feelings of grief and loss. xoxo

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  17. Diane
    Diane says:

    I think a few of us Harbinites are gathering for dinner tomorrow at that time and we will definitely join you in the ritual. Many blessings and Love to you, Lokita.

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  18. paula
    paula says:

    Thank you for suggesting the ritual. I joined in and appreciate the opportunity to send love and energy to Steve.
    I am also sending love and energy to you. xoxoxox

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