Meet Lokita

Lokita Carter and her beloved husband Steve had a great life enjoying each other, their doghter Coco and teaching Tantra in some 500 seminars to over 20,000 couples and individuals in the US and internationally. They were happily together for 17 years. Then everything was ripped apart. In her book, Reaching for Sunrise: A Widow’s Memoir, Lokita tells the story of their love, of Steve’s murder and her cancer illness, showing us her way through the mayhem, and beyond into a new life. May Lokita’s book and teachings touch our hearts and remind us of that which is truly real and available to us regardless of the external circumstances: love.

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Reaching for Sunrise: A Widow’s Memoir

Behind the High-Profile Murder of Steve Carter

In the quiet corners of Marin County, California, a serene life is violently upheaved, leading one woman’s battle against cancer to intertwine with a shocking crime that will test her spirit and redefine her path.

Lokita’s life takes a devastating turn when her husband, renowned Tantra instructor Steve Carter, is brutally murdered during a peaceful evening walk with their dog Coco in Marin County, California. Already fiercely battling life-threatening breast cancer, her journey becomes a relentless quest for justice and survival.

In Reaching for Sunrise, Lokita shares with grace and humor her transformation from profound trauma to unwavering strength, offering a story of hope and courage that will inspire those touched by loss, illness, violence, or who seek to be uplifted by the power of the human spirit.

From the brink of death to the quest for justice join Lokita’s journey through love, loss, and rebirth. Get your copy today and discover how courage can shine through the darkest moments.

Praise

“How does love survive in the face of unspeakable tragedy? Lokita’s immersion into the teachings of Tantra at least gave her some tools to traverse a landscape that nobody ever wants to have to pass through. How does love survive? One courageous step at a time evidently. Lokita needed to share her story with the world, and we all need to hear it. Remarkable.”

— Will JohnsonAuthor of "The Posture of Meditation", "Breathing Through the Whole Body", and "Rumi’s Four Essential Practices"

“Lokita Carter underwent an unimaginable heartbreak during a time of hardship in her life; a series of gut-wrenching events that upended her world and sense of self. She tells the tale of surviving grief and pain with the same grace, love and strength it took her to come out the other side. Her story is one of resilience — a how-to for not just withstanding the worst but emerging from the flames of hell with the ability to still hold love in your heart.”

— Vivian HoJournalist and Author of "Those Who Wander: America’s Lost Street Kids"

“This book is the gripping saga of a woman’s immense courage in the face of death – her own and the murder of her husband. She shows us, through her improbable resurrection that we can, against all odds, gamble for life, and life responds with moments of grace that are nothing short of miracles. A truly engrossing, riveting and inspiring read.”

— Margot AnandBest-selling Author of "The Art of Sexual Ecstasy" and "The Art of EveryDay Ecstasy"

“In Reaching for Sunrise, Lokita shares her personal journey with unwavering candor and authenticity. Through her story of loss, grief, and resilience, Lokita has deeply touched my heart; her memoir is a testament to the strength of the human spirit and the possibility of finding hope even in the face of great tragedy. An inspiration to read and behold.”

— Martin AdamsAuthor of "Land: A New Paradigm for a Thriving World"

“Lokita Carter’s book is an utterly engaging personal account of making peace with extraordinary tragedy.”

— Holly Rawson, LPC and Brian Ahern, LCSW

“Lokita, your writing is very intimate, natural, heartfelt, filled with all your emotions and strength. It’s your powerful journey of triumph overcoming tragedy. This is a must-read book for every person who is a survivor of tragedy, only to blossom into the triumph of HOPE, LOVE AND RESILIENCE.”

— Rev. Michele ClarksonMSW & LCSW

“This story tells us about loss, grief and tough survival, and yet at the same time it’s a tale of hope, renewal, deep love and joy regained. Written with a light hand, and yet full of wisdom, at no time is it voyeuristic, despite never flinching from telling the truth about terrible events and suffering. It never preaches; nevertheless, in the best possible way, it can teach us so much. I will read it again, give it to my friends and keep it to hand.”

— Tiggy GreenwoodAuthor and Illustrator

“Raw, visceral, and inspiring. Lokita takes us on a journey no one should have to travel. She shows that no amount of loss is insurmountable, there is a way back to joy and inspiration. The path leads through self-reflection, gratitude, and friends and family, but also the hard work of facing and feeling one’s deepest fears. Her life’s arc from entrepreneur to tantra teacher to author gives her work both depth and lightness. Lokita’s story inspires us to joy and life. I will be forever changed having known Lokita through her teachings and her book.”

— Charlie CrockerEntrepreneur

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