Lokita Carter: Writings & Offerings


A life-threatening rare breast cancer diagnosis, followed by harrowing treatment. The tragic loss of her beloved husband Steve in a murder spree.

All this happened to Lokita Carter in late 2015. Then, time passed. Followed by knee replacement surgery. And more passing of time.

Her blog is the raw, heart-wrenching and inspiring chronicle of the events, the feelings, the fears, the grief, the good moments, and ever so slowly, the transformation.

Two years later, she has re-emerged strong, victoriously and bright from the darkest, most horrible time of her life with new insights and intimate understanding of life, death and what’s really important: love.

Lokita is profoundly inspired to share her insights and passion for Tantra, through her writings and her coaching, and to let others taste the bliss that is possible when we are fully present to now, and in love with ourselves, each other and life at large.

When we are present, really present with life and death any moment, everything becomes so precious.

Lokita’s Blog

Coco was still standing

This post that is not for the faint of heart. Graphic details follow. It is a hard, sad read. But it must be said, for the record, now that the legal process is almost complete. In all the media reports about Steve's murder and the court process,…

How are you, Lokita?

The typical question: "How are you, Lokita?" I find it impossible to answer. No adjective can quite describe how I am. And do I really want to get into the details? Do they really want to hear? When I look at photos of myself and see radiance,…

The Cancer Reality

Traumatic events are often blended out, I am told. Indeed the minuscule facts and even the bigger events of late, especially of the cancer experience, have already merged into the Larger History of Lokita. The other day I spoke with Susie, a…

The Mind is never choiceless

Here I am, all alone now. The flow of close friends from California has ended. It began the day I arrived here in Costa Rica in December and my final two visitors left yesterday. The house is quiet. Coco is on extra alert, busily patrolling…

Tropical TantraTM Coaching in Costa Rica

This is the ultimate for relationship renewal! Give yourselves the gift of undivided attention for each other, and dedicate a week in paradise to enhance your relationship – communication, sexual intimacy, heart connection, and your spiritual life together.

Fan your flames of passion. Learn skills for creating more pleasure in your love life. Bring more spiritual meaning into your loving. Satisfy your curiosity about Tantra or deepen your tantric practice. Address specific issues in your relationship. Enjoy each other and fall in love over and over again!

This is a very rare opportunity to study with Lokita Carter during an  exclusive and custom-designed Tropical Tantra Coaching program and a fantastic vacation at Playa Montezuma, Costa Rica.

Get in Touch

This is your invitation to write Lokita a personal message, inquire about availability for coaching, ask a question, invite her to speak at an event, or simply stay in touch with her. Lokita looks forward to hearing from you.

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