Lokita Carter: Writings & Offerings


A life-threatening rare breast cancer diagnosis, followed by harrowing treatment. The tragic loss of her beloved husband Steve in a murder spree.

All this happened to Lokita Carter in late 2015. Then, time passed. Followed by knee replacement surgery. And more passing of time.

Her blog is the raw, heart-wrenching and inspiring chronicle of the events, the feelings, the fears, the grief, the good moments, and ever so slowly, the transformation.

Two years later, she has re-emerged strong, victoriously and bright from the darkest, most horrible time of her life with new insights and intimate understanding of life, death and what’s really important: love.

Lokita is profoundly inspired to share her insights and passion for Tantra, through her writings and her coaching, and to let others taste the bliss that is possible when we are fully present to now, and in love with ourselves, each other and life at large.

When we are present, really present with life and death any moment, everything becomes so precious.

Lokita’s Blog

Here's the story...

This blog, started in August 2015, is dedicated to my journey with metaplastic breast cancer, and to sharing how I continue living without my beloved husband Steve who was murdered on October 5th, 2015. In essence, it is a spiritual journey…

Out of the Body

Yesterday "I" had the distinct experience of being out of my body. Lying in a darkened room while letting the contrast fluid for the PET/CT scan permeate every cell of my body, then being taken into the scanner machine - this part of the movie…

Before the Storm

Tomorrow I have to get a PET/CT scan to see if the cancer has spread to other parts of my body. I am scared. Despite of all the tests, and biopsies, and operations, and generally very scary times I have gone through in the past 10 months, this…

A Miracle

A miracle happened today. Steve and I were invited by friends to stay with them at their large house in West Marin. We are bewildered and deeply touched by their amazing gift and unconditional generosity. Here we were, fretting about where…

Tropical TantraTM Coaching in Costa Rica

This is the ultimate for relationship renewal! Give yourselves the gift of undivided attention for each other, and dedicate a week in paradise to enhance your relationship – communication, sexual intimacy, heart connection, and your spiritual life together.

Fan your flames of passion. Learn skills for creating more pleasure in your love life. Bring more spiritual meaning into your loving. Satisfy your curiosity about Tantra or deepen your tantric practice. Address specific issues in your relationship. Enjoy each other and fall in love over and over again!

This is a very rare opportunity to study with Lokita Carter during an  exclusive and custom-designed Tropical Tantra Coaching program and a fantastic vacation at Playa Montezuma, Costa Rica.

Get in Touch

This is your invitation to write Lokita a personal message, inquire about availability for coaching, ask a question, invite her to speak at an event, or simply stay in touch with her. Lokita looks forward to hearing from you.

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